Did you know that two out of five single people in the UK now use some kind of online dating service? That’s 40% of all singles! No wonder that there are so many dating sites out there trying to bring people together. But it sometimes can be difficult to see the wood for the trees and to find a dating site that works for you
Once you sign up to a dating site it is really important that you put all the features it has to good use and market yourself in the best way possible. We have seen our fair share of dating profiles and we know the things that work and the ones that don’t work. It is amazing how some simple things can make your profile stand out and make a huge difference. So to help you out we have put together a beginners guide to online dating with a list of 5 things that will make you stand out and help you on your way to dating success.
1. Create A Great Profile.
I know, sounds obvious right, but you would be surprised how many people actually don’t take the time and effort to create a good profile.
Your profile is what will tell people about you, who you are and what you are looking for. It is the part of your profile that is one of the most important tools in getting that date you are after. The little bit of text you write about yourself is often the only thing that will help possible dates to decide whether they send you a message or if they click on to the next person.
A lot of people skip through this part or write “I’ll fill this out later”, but never get round to it and then wonder why nobody responds
Don’t just say “Nice guy seeks nice girl for trips to the cinema” – how boring does that sound? Take the time to say something about yourself, your lifestyle, your interests and the type of person you’re hoping to meet. And remember to sound happy, upbeat, fun and confident; if you’re miserable about your recent breakup, then keep it to yourself! This isn’t the time for modesty; if you think you’re pretty darn attractive, then be sure to say so. And humour is a real ice-breaker – if you can make someone laugh, they’ll be more likely to want to contact you.
2. Always Upload A Photo.
Even if you don’t have a very flattering one to hand, you should always post a pic with your profile. Remember, 95% of people on dating sites only search for other members who have bothered to provide a picture of themselves. You want to see what other potential partners look like so it stands to reason that other people will want to know what you look like too. If your photo isn’t recent or isn’t a great likeness of you, you can always say so in your profile.
3. Be Proactive.
Don’t just join a site and expect other people to contact you. Make sure you regularly search the database for people with whom you might be compatible and when you find someone you like the look or sound of, write to them immediately and tell them why you think you might be a good fit.
4. Write Great Messages.
OK, you’ve joined a dating site, you’ve searched for other members who fall within your specified categories, and you’ve been presented with a page of matching profiles. You’re eager to fire off a few messages … but what on earth do you say in them?
Re-read the paragraph above about creating a great profile and apply the same rules to the first message that you send to another member. If it looks like you can’t be bothered to say much or that you’re sending the same one line message to several people, then they probably wont bother to reply.
Tell that person a little about who you are and why you think you might both be compatible – respond directly to what you’ve read in that person’s profile – sound interested and interesting and you’ll get a message by return – sound boring and downbeat or worse copy and paste and you’ll just be ignored.
5. Check Back Often With The Site.
There are two reasons why you should do this as often as possible. The most obvious one is to keep up to speed with who has joined since you last logged-on; that special someone might have signed-up since you last visited the site so don’t miss out.
However, what most people don’t realise is that when you log-in to a dating site, your profile automatically moves up the listings on the internal search engine because you are seen as an active member, which in turn means that you are more likely to be spotted and contacted by other people. Don’t be a stranger to the site you’ve joined and I recommend that you visit the site at least once a day during the lifetime of your membership.
So there you have it – 5 easy ways to make your chosen dating site work for YOU. Have fun and happy hunting!
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