Need some ideas to make your lovemaking phenomenal again? These 7 tips should give you plenty of ideas to make your midnight sessions more hot, steamy and passionate, starting today…
1. Become more sensual in your lovemaking
While most men want to ‘get the job done’ so to speak and reach the goal of orgasm, for women the whole sexual experience is often more about the journey. Don’t get me wrong, women love to reach climax as much as men do, but they also love a sensual stroke from your hand across their leg or a passionate embrace.
Believe it or not, her ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas where women love to be touched and stimulated. So next time you dive into bed, spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner and can even intensify their orgasm.
2. Try positions proven to increase pleasure
If you have been together for a while things can get a bit boring, I know that, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t necessarily have to run out to go and buy the illustrated edition of the Kamasutra (although that might be fun), but sometimes a slight variation of the positions you like can increase your pleasure tenfold.
For women: The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary except that you as the woman are on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot all by herself without having to rely on her partner to do all the hard work.
For men: Practically every animal species on earth uses the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it doesn’t come as a surprise that it is a natural one for us humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits to doggy style.
It is great position for guys because they have full control over movement and pleasure and most women love doggy style because the penetration tends to be much deeper and stronger than in any other regular position.
3. Play bedroom games to spice up your lovemaking
If the whole controversy over the 50 shades of grey books has taught us one thing it is that tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to reignite passion between couples and intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. Bedroom games are fun, sexy and have a lot of “replay” value as you can think about them long after you had your fun.
There are so many different games you can play in (and out) of the bedroom. You can engage in role play by dressing up for each other or switching roles. Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!
And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you’ll be using them in new more naughty scenarios, which will actually make them feel new.
4. Set a romantic mood
I know some guys will be rolling their eyes at the “R” word, but contrary what you may think romance isn’t dead. People, especially younger couples, often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of their lovemaking is too “cliché”, too “old fashioned”. Are they kidding! There is a reason why women love romantic movies or get engrossed in romance chick lit: they love it.
Whats more your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come.
Could romantic gestures be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made I guess.
5. Give them a sexy massage
Why stop at setting the mood? Why not go one step further and give your partner a sensual massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time.
Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable. Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place.
And no, you don’t need years of study and a sophisticated degree to be able to give a great massage. No, this is a chance for you and your partner to get your hands on each other in a different way. Just grab some candles, some soothing music, some massage oil and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget.
6. Please your partner with more oral sex
Ok, lets get to something a little bit more explicit. Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship?
Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it’s great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who can’t reach orgasm from only intercourse.
Oral sex can be an important part of your foreplay or it can stand on its own as a treat to your partner.
Here are some tips for both men and women.
Ladies: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway, working it hard like they may have seen in an adult movie. When, actually, it would be much better and sensual if they would start with some playful teasing and soft touches.
This whole anticipation and soft erotic play will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his excitement.
Gentlemen: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally almost as if it was a small penis. This can be enjoyable to some women, but the majority of women we spoke to told us that they prefer a more gentle motion.
Guys who want to indulge their partner in some oral sex should instead lick it more like an ice cream cone, with long lingering strokes.
Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around their partner’s clitoris with their tongue. The variations in movement will be very stimulating and will get her to climax.
7. Use household items in your lovemaking games
We’ve already touched on role play or bedroom games. It makes sense that to spice things up you need to do something different. The more unique the experience, the more it fires up your lovemaking.
Well, just recently I’ve found one of the very BEST ways to keep things passionate and exciting is by using household items.
Bear with me as I can see you roll your eyes at me in surprise. That’s right! There are literally 100’s of household items you can play with in your house. Everything from a rolling pin for a massage, ice for a cool sensation, cards for a naughty game or sheepskin that feels soft under your skin.
By dedicating time to finding new items, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary
lovemaking for longer, and keep it that way. And while positions and techniques get old quickly, these items add a NEW LEVEL to your lovemaking that normal lovemaking just can’t do.
This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.
In fact, unlike all the other suggestions, using household items for foreplay and intercourse proves to be the most unique and powerful way to spice up lovemaking.
If you are interested in finding out a bit more about how to use simple household items to spice up your love life you might want to check out a book written by Oprah’s Love Expert Michael Webb called “Sex All Around The House – Using Everyday Household Items To Spice Up Your Sex Life,” His book will help you to get in the mood, prolong the passion and create totally new sensations. Handpicked from over 1500 tips.
