As you know, body language is VERY important when you are trying to seduce a woman. According to several studies that were carried out on body language and how we perceive it during mating over 50% of your communication comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.
So what does all this research mean to you?
It is more important to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, and HOW you stand and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).
You see, you could have the best seduction game in the world and be able to really get any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same successful techniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.
Honestly, your body language is incredibly important in attracting women. Later in this articlewe’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to actually read her mind and know what she’s thinking by looking at her body language.
But this article is about YOUR body language.
Ok… So, let me start by covering the basics as the more advanced stuff is beyond the scope of this initial article (if you want more advanced detail concerning body language you can check out guygetsgirl.com where we go into more detail).
Body language basics
Body language basic 1: Smile
You have to make a woman feel at ease and comfortable by showing that you are a friendly and fun guy and not some psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the quickest and best way to do this. Believe me, it works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, just give her a big smile and she will soon thaw out.
If you are uncomfortable with smiling or if you think it looks unnatural, just practice by smiling at random people. When you walk through town or the supermarket, just smile at the people you walk by. You’ll be surprised by how many people will actually smile back and at how many doors open to you.
Remember: smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, Cheshire cat fake smile 😉
Body language basic 2: Eye contact
As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest. I know that can be difficult especially if she has got an amazing rack, but if you can manage to keep your eyes on hers she’ll soon start to wonder why her womanly powers don’t work on you. She will wonder what is different about you and she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!
When talking to her, try to maintain natural eye contact. Not too much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women.
But eye contact doesn’t mean that you should be staring at her like some crazy stalker guy; just be natural. If you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.
Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.
Body language basic 3: Upright posture
Most guys think they can get away with a bit of a hunch or a slouch, because they think it make them look cool and aloof, but in reality women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture.
Having a good posture sends out the signal to a woman that you are confident, healthy and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.
Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.
Body language basic 4: Gesticulate with open palms
You will not hear this tip anywhere else or if you do, it was almost certainly copied from this article ;).
I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!
Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.
It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important.
This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.
So there you have it, those 4 tips cover the basics of body language if you want to seduce a woman. Body language is only a small part of the whole seduction process.
If you’d like to learn more about body language and how you can use it to your advantage when trying to get the girl of your dreams then why not head over to guygetsgirl.com where you can find out more.